How do you know if you have and easeful or stressful orientation to life?
Often its how we were brought up or through larger influences which set the tone for how we engage with life. But later we have the option to choose how we enter our day. So ask yourself a few questions. Is life stressful? Is life overwhelming? Should life be so tiresome? By consciously entering your day with the choice to be in ease, a sense of flow, a sense of connection, life becomes opportunistic rather than the socially accepted busy, stressed, overworked, tired and overwhelmed where everything is happening and you are just reacting.
Is your cup half empty or half full?
It begins with our language and how we describe our life to ourselves. And its not about just sugar coating everything to say “oh yea everything is great and nothing is wrong” but rather embracing even the challenging as opportunities for growth and evolution of our own identity. And just like using training wheels on a bike when we are learning to ride, its awkward and different when beginning to orient ourselves to the language aligned with ease, comfort and creativity.
When we choose to respond to life, we take complete responsibility of our life and own that we are creating everything from the easy to challenging. Reacting is in a sense a lack of ability to respond, a lack of responsibility, this responsibility comes with deepening awareness and making choices to see life happening for us.
It’s the cup half full way of life.
This is ingrained in our dna through the challenges of our ancestors, but through the growth of our consciousness we now have a choice to change the trajectory of our path and how we associate with it.
Through practice, we can articulate our words to identify and express our orientation and where we are coming from. Through daily practice, it begins to rewire our brain and becomes the normal way of approach. Feeling the difference between stress and anxiety as a contraction and the intensity which is associated with these states vs. the expansive qualities associated with joy and love and how it opens us more and more.
Whats the easiest shift to begin with you ask? Gratitude.
Stress and gratitude don’t go together. They resonate at different frequencies. Meaning you can’t experience both at the same time. Yes its hard to immediately shift into this state in the heat of the moment after being activated by the situation, that is why it is a practice. We continually come back to it each time after noticing and over time, momentum builds and its just the new normal.
Gratitude is the antidote for stress
This state of easeful living comes after time of practice and setting up your body in way which takes the pressure down a bit. Self care practices are great tools to help re-orient yourself and other simple steps taken again and again over time do create momentum. So Identify what matters most to you, which orientation do you want to have towards life, and know that the entire world needs your joy, your love and your gratitude expressed more and more everyday!